Spouse Stories

[Hermskii]

Your days are numbered David. LOL

My wife and I are in one way doing better than we have ever done. In another way nothing has changed a bit in we still give each other bad looks and say bad things to each other when we are not pleased. Marriage is funny like that.

I'm sure my days are numbered too if it makes you feel any better David.

[a nameless entity]

"Now come on dog, now don't you whine
that side's yours and this side's mine
now move it on over, move it on over,
move over little dog, a big old dog is movin' in.... "

[David]

Alright, give me a minute or two to explain myself here. This is a spouse story even though it might appear that it is not. So give it a little before turning the page.

Yesterday I went with my wife and younger daughter to watch my older daughter play Youth Basketball. Now I LOVE playing basketball and that is mostly what I did when I was young and single (I did play football and baseball as well, but basketball was easier to do with fewer players). Anyways, I will admit that I am one of those parents who should not go to their kids' games. Why? Am I one of those loud parents who yell and scream at the players, refs, or other parents....no. No I am not. But, I get frustrated and shake my head when I see my daughter doing something that I see an issue with and see does not see the upcoming issue that I see. She is holding onto the ball when defenders swarm her and she does not get rid of the ball to another team mate or to a better ball handler. She does not post up when she should. She does not run fast enough down the court...etc...

I try not to swear, I try not to yell, but sometimes when I get frustrated I will say in a regular toned voice to myself "Child of Hell." (Hold on here is the connection to the spouse story...) Once I said "Child of Hell" to MYSELF, my wife looks at me with disgust and then turns her head away from me in anger and throws that snaring upper lip at me. I think to myself, "Why do I come to these? We all know how I am, so why do we want me here?"

My daughter is improving. She did get more rebounds, steals, and played better defense than she did prior to this game.

I try to be equal when it comes to criticism. Meaning, I will tell her a few things that she could improve but I also tell her about the things that she has improved on. I am not going to lie to my daughter. If she ask, I will tell.

I love my daughters. They are good kids and doing well in school. I am a competitive person by nature and sometimes that drives me to drive my kids in doing better, especially in something that I am competitive about. I honestly don’t care if they win. It is how they play, that I care about.

My wife is not competitive. She is more laid back and does not care about things. The only time she cares is if it interferes with what she wants to do (“her time”) or makes her come out of her comfort zone.